Motivation Sundae: Confidence + Acknowledging Your Success

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“You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”

– A.A. Milne

When I saw this quote, it spoke to my spirit. There are many times when we don’t give ourselves enough credit. At times we compare ourselves to other people or compare our successes to the successes of others. I am going to let you in on a little secret:

Not one person got to where they are in life the exact same way as another person. I do not care if they are parent and child, brother and sister or twins. Everyone’s journey is completely different!

With that being said, I am going to present you with a few ways to build confidence while acknowledging your successes.


1 | CARE A LITTLE LESS

Disclaimer: I am not asking you to go out into the word and become a complete savage. That’s not the message in this case. Read this with an open mind.

Have you ever had someone mention something about your looks, beliefs, or work ethic, etc. and you know that they are completely wrong in their assumptions because they do not know you? Yet…what they said still bothers you. Take what they have to say with a grain of salt! If you are trying your hardest and you make the effort to continuously better yourself, then that’s is what you continue to do. Do not switch up what you are doing just because someone makes a side comment. Do not think that you are less attractive because of something that a rude person said. You have to build your own foundation to stand on. Own your journey. Own your process. Stay Beautiful!


2 | HAVE POWER BEHIND YOUR MESSAGE!

I am a firm believer in speaking positive affirmations into your life. I spoke about this back in October of last year via Instagram. I will leave the link to that post here. What reintroduced this process to mind was a video that I watched via Hollywood Unlocked. This particular interview featured Meagan Good. At the time, Jason Lee was speaking about DeVon Franklin. The advice that DeVon gave Jason when he was developing a project was, “Figure out what your message is because these words are going to have power.” I was sold, and he was so right. This can also apply to everyday life.

Have you ever been set on doing something in your life or working on something that is close to your heart and an outsider asks you, “Why are you doing this?” Have you always had a legitimate reason to give them? Everyone has had that moment when they just don’t know or their message isn’t exactly clear. Know your message. Know your purpose. Know your platform. There is an abundance of beauty in showing passion for something and knowing exactly what your message/purpose is. Allow yourself to take a step back and think on your message, and once you have that set in your mind, stick with it. You will be confident in sharing your purpose with the world when your foundation is strong.

If you want to watch that Hollywood Unlocked interview click here! The mentioned portion starts at 14:37.


3 | USE THE POWER OF THE LETTER “I”!

You believe what you speak into yourself. Think about it. Whenever you say, “I feel…”, “I am…”, “I can’t…”, you speak that existence into yourself. Use that in a positive way. This will build your confidence like no other! Build that confidence within yourself using powerful statements.

Example: Did you just finish a major project that pushed your limits? Acknowledge your success and say, “I am hard working, and I am creative.” Believe the words that you are speaking into yourself.

It has been a proven fact that saying these positive words into a mirror helps boost your confidence. Find the biggest and brightest mirror that you have. Speak those positive words into your life. Make this a daily practice. Remember it takes a minimum of 21 days to form a habit. Add this great one into the mix!

I BELIEVE IN YOU!


Comment below and share with me! What are you working on? What is your statement of purpose? What accomplishment would you like to acknowledge more? Let me know!


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Sex, Sushi & Body Confidence

Good Morning Beautiful,

Today is Saturday, and it’s officially the weekend. Let me fill you in on my Friday night. I invited a few friends over for a girl’s night of food, wine and binge watching Sex & the City. Typical? Yes, very much so, but let’s stay focused. We started with Season 1, and by episode 2 I was laughing at the irony. Here we were matching the scene in front of us all the way down to the messy buns and post hell week chill clothes. We were sitting around the table discussing men…and women for some of us. The plot of this episode was centered around models, beauty and, “giraffes with big breasts.” Looking around we all burst out laughing. I might be tall, but I don’t consider a 36C to be so big, so I think I’m safe. All of us are tall for women ( 5’8” to about 6’0”), and we’ve all heard the oh so famous phrase.. “You’re so tall….You should be a model.”

This is when the topic hit me…What’s more important? Size or health?

The “industry” has taken a hold on us all at some point. Myself included. Too small, too tall, fat, skinny… WHO CARES?! I am not always happy with all the newest trends, but I am happy with one that should already be a natural state of mind.

Body Confidence

Does being a size 4 make you healthy? No.

Does being a size 18 make you unhealthy? No.

All sizes are circumstantial. When I was a size 8, I was the unhealthiest I had been in my entire life. I was bouncing back and forth between Starbucks and an eating disorder. Yes, I am one of many who have struggled.

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It took me 25 years to be comfortable with my 5’10 1/4”, size 14/16 body, and I am the happiest that I have EVER been!


Still struggling? Need a boost?

Here are a few body confidence tips, do’s and don’ts to help put some things into perspective:

1. Do: Fight the old tale. Shoot the messenger!

Have you ever had someone say something negative to you about your body, weight or size that completely ruined your mood? Have you had a thought in the changing room that made you put down the most amazing outfit? Shoot the messenger!!

Disclaimer: I’m not asking you to go out and kill anybody!

If someone tells you something negative about your body…SPEAK UP! For every negative thing you hear, speak another positive. For every reason you think you shouldn’t wear that outfit… Think of every reason why you should. Stop that negative feeling before it starts, and be your own self love publicist.

Don’t: Cuss out your doctor for giving you health advice.


2. Do: Get naked!

Spend more time in your birthday suit! Prance around the house, and sleep naked more often. You will learn more about your body, and there’s nothing better than being comfortable in your own skin. Did you know only 17% of Americans sleep completely naked? Shocker to me! Let’s add to the number shall we?

Don’t: Walk around naked if you have roommates! I would hate for you to walk out into a living room full of people. AWKWARD!!


3. Do: Spend time in the mirror

Think about this. Majority of the time when we look in the mirror it’s because we are looking for something to be wrong. Is my hair ok? Is there something in my teeth? Let me fix my lipstick…The list goes on. When is the last time you sat in the mirror to think about all the things that are right about you? No makeup, no lashes,nothing extra…Just you. Every morning or every night find something about yourself that you love. Look in the mirror and see how beautiful you are.

Don’t: Do this in a public place or while driving! We have the tendency to get caught up in our looks.


4. Smile for goodness sake!

Don’t? There isn’t one. Smile for any and every reason. The more you smile, the better you will feel!


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